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You know she started dating right after we split, she was trying to how she could get her tour guide bf over to the states too. Honestly, so fucking what? I'm a big boy, I can take care of myself.
It doesn't serve any purpose to be punitive, my ex punished herself enough through her own fucked up actions. The real relevance in divorce isn't the "reasons", peeps to cling to infidelity as the kicker but there is a lot of other shit we ALL pull.
Now that doesn't excuse my ex for her shit but I've got my crap. My ex didn't fuck this shit up alone. Its like the rest of it, alimony for instance, do I like it, NO but you know what? If some dude wants a stay at home wifey or a CEO marries a secretary then divorces he's going to pay and visa versa.
You don't like it get a fucking prenup. We are adults, we are responsible for our own actions, condition and choices. No fault isn't something new, the rules were there when I married. I didn't give two shits about it till it happened to me, it isn't anyone -'s fault I didn't want to believe I would be a "victim" of infidelity. I don't need more government regulations, the laws are in place.
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To save time, you should ask me to make that introduction. It breaks down barriers quickly to be direct and honest. In , I visited Japan for a three weeks as part of the U. I on the other hand, being of asian decent half chinese , was completely ignored. Why would we want to date you, when your contempt for us is so obvious?
I am thinking about making a move to teach in Japan from South America. I just want to live in a more modern country with a higher standard of living. I have always imagined that Japanese guys hate american guys or something. I guess I thought this because I read that in Japan they wont let American guys into clubs and bars. I am an american expat in Brazil, and wow do we get attention down here.
There are many, many more women than men in general in Brazil, add this to the sad but true fact that Brazilian men have a bad reputation as cheaters. Brazilian are all about looks though, so the nerd is not going to get very far down here.
So maybe I should go to Japan and find a lot of dating opportunities with all the single expat babes! Who told you that? I know no one who hate American guys. Of course there exist some people here who hate the American Government , not people, because of their ideology most of them are ultra leftist , not right wingers , but they are so rare that you can forget them and there would be no problem. Gringo — Wow, sounds like you have a good deal going for ya down there in S. I mean, super models stalking you…I wish I had that problem!
The attention i usually received, however, was not sincere. At social gatherings, they usually sat with each other at one table, rarely interacting with their wives. When their kids approach school-age, they are faced with a dilemma: Sending a bi-racial child to school in a homogenous country like Japan is not easy. Another option is to go back home. Many often have to return because the wives whose English is competent by local standards is usually way below what is needed to obtain employment or even survive in the USA etc.
Furthermore, many do not have the skills or training to compete in the work force where dual-income households are the norm. This what i frequently observed after the honeymoon is over! I love how feminists are all convienent biological and evolutionary determinists when it suits them.
However the second you start discussing intrinsic differences between men and women which serve to explain and further justify the social and economic stratification of society, they shit themselves. And even when reality takes you by the neck and shoves your noses into your shitty attitude you manage to blame everybody else for being nothing but horrible partners to men.
But they will get laid and make money for their new families while you will end up as cat ladies when the bad-boy cock carousel throws you off for the new hot tweens.
American women really are pretty screwed up. Because the women never learn to treat men with respect as equal human beings, capable of the full range of thoughts, emotions and dreams, they live within a framework of rules and expectations when trying to interact with them. This largely consists of sending severely mixed signals and failing to communicate effectively. Hmm…I am not sure how the view any of this…lol. I think things have changed since I was last in Japan.
But when I traveled there a lot back in , I had many Japanese men as friends and a Japanese boyfriend who was pretty cute. And before you even ask, no I am not cute, rail thin, or white. Yet, I have heard all the stories about foreign women having a time getting a date in the land of the rising sun. Your article was an informative and open look at how you felt about your experiences as a foreign woman in Japan. It took some courage to put that all out there so thank you for sharing it with us.
I know that sounds like a self-help slogan but it works for me. So keep the faith, he or she is out there people. Thank you writing this article. I found it very interesting and it was nice to hear of others with similar experiences.
Some of the comments from the male demographic are very shocking and uncivilized. Japanese male-foreign female marriages actually outnumber foreign male-Japanese female marriages. I get J-guys chatting me up in konbini parking lots. I smile at people both men and women — not unheard of in the countryside and men smile back, maybe even too eagerly.
And I had to ask my resident J-guy for his thoughts on this. His answer — attitude. Uppity attitude and a smell of desperation are universal turn offs for guys, all over the world. His words, not mine. You are absolutely right. However, for smart foreign men, I am including myself here, the dating pool is made even more vast by the existence of the dateless foreign women.
This has had a serious ego fattening affect and I will certainly need counseling in order to re-adjust to life back in Canada but, for the time-being, I have super-powers. I wish you better luck in love, lust and all the wonderful little human things that make it fun to discover new people.
Just found this web site and this was the first article I read… if all articles are this good, I think I have discovered a new favorite web site. I am a little surprised at some the uproar from a few readers… as a western man who spent some time in Japan along with my western woman wife I think I can be an objective observer. I thought Reannon was right on every account AND she did a wonderful job of pointing out a very real issue while at the same time being provocative and funny.
Great article Reannon, looking forward to the next one. Foreign men are for the most part outside the norms, as are foreign women. Life in the big city of Tokyo is somewhat different, since there are so many foreigners there, unlike many other parts of Japan.
Have to say, as a Canadian white male married with kids to an Asian and living in Asia for 20 years, in general gotta agree with the author. Their anger and bitterness is usually kept a lid on back in their home country but when they come to Asia, where males generally still occupy more dominant position vis-a-vis the genders, emotions sometimes boils over.
Coupled with the fact that for some only god knows reason, many Asian women have a thing for White boys — leads to the Gaijin God phenomena. Consequently, Western woman can be a easy target — belittling, name calling, feminazis overtures bordering on misogyny and so on. Yeah, we are top of the totem poles again — lets get our licks in. Most reasonable and open minded people however, will understand and agree that gender equality is a good thing and a moral standard all cultures around the world should strive towards.
I read it and other similar articles on the plight of foreign women before going to Tokyo, and prepared myself for loneliness, and even bought a flexible ticket in case I wanted to leave Japan for a friendlier country.
My experience has been the complete opposite… I have never had so much male attention in my life!! I bought a few new feminine outfits for socialising. I made friends with Japanese girls, who were happy to take me along to social events, and introduce me to Japanese guys.
I am working really hard to improve my Japanese language skills, especially pronunciation, so that I can have a conversation with Japanese guys. I also make an effort to understand someone when their English is really bad, and give them positive and encouraging feedback.
This is so important: I have been approached by sleazy men on the street, but if you want to be approached by a nice guy, you need to go somewhere where he has the opportunity to approach you. For example, a standing bar, a party, or some sort of social or networking event.
I read a lot of comments from posters about overweight American women. Sorry if my comment appears boastful. I just want to encourage other western women that there is hope here in Japan.
Your social calendar can be completely booked if you are willing to be a little open and have the right attitude. Anyway, I hope I have given you enough hope: No sex in the city by Reannon Muth of Vagabondish.
Thanx for the story. Was there as well. Most important time of my life. But you know what, I love Japan for many reasons. It helped to grow up. Went there at I had the problem, that people looked at me all the time — and this was totally new for me, a shy and pale blondy from the countryside.
Never had that back home. Tatemae is not my style and never will be. You surely can get very depressed in Japan — but only if you let those bad feelings in. They will hit on you and you would get many dates. The western woman is the shining star here. And Western men get dates too. However, my Korean boyfriend tells me it is a lot easier to date than a Korean women. Easy in the relationship sense. Not true for Western women everywhere. Grover — Aw, what a nice thing to say! I can relate to this article.
As the world is becoming more globalized, western women no longer need to fear competition from Susie down the street, but also from some other woman halfway around the world. Oftentimes these women are thinner, better looking and still raised with traditional family values instilled in them. Most women overseas are happy and grateful to receive the affections of a well educated western man from a good family.
Contrary to the beliefs of many a scorned western woman, not all men that desire foreign companions are undateable nerds, losers or outcasts. Many successful and attractive men are discovering their mates and life partners overseas. I predict that the demographic changes that will occur in the next 20 years will be astounding. Wow, what an extremely bitter author. Have you ever taken into consideration that your problem with dating in Asia may be because you just have a piece of shit personality?
Or lack a pretty face? She said that all Japanese guy wanted was a girl to look pretty and to open her legs. Nothing else was needed or desired. In the West, a guy wanted a relationship with her: I have read that some Japanese women are looking abroad for husband material.
Sadly, three beautiful children later, they divorced. If you happen to fall in love with someone from another country fine, but this shopping attitude makes me cringe. Stereotyping can be life-denying: So basically some chick goes a few months without getting laid and has to write a snarky depreciating blog entry attacking white dudes?
Rather than lashing out, your time would be better spent on improving your own negative attitude. As expected, lots of bitter charisma men here: They get so defensive when people verbalize the truth — that Asia is full of loser foreign men. Sex is easy to come by for foreign women in Japan. Sex is easy for women anywhere. But having relationships in Japan is almost impossible because Japanese men are too sexist and the majority of foreign males are weird. Most Japanese girls dating foreign men are average at best.
Jagged teeth, unflattering clothes, ignorance, pigeon toes, naive as hell, and minimal social skills are the norm. Perfect for Charisma men: Just make it a short visit or do a homestay. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and not everyone is going to find american women attractive and not every man finds asian women attractive. The insulting comments were so unnecessary. This article was simply a woman sharing her experience. There was no need for everyone to insult and put each other down.
How do I know this? From approaching a lot of these western women. The perception is western women are hard to approach and hard to please so most men tend to steer clear especially when other alternatives are available.
Being a foreigner in Japan is definitely not easy, but then again it can be quite interesting. I was approached by many guys all the time to the point where it became uncomfortable. I truly believe it all comes down to attitude. And this is solely my experience! I soon realized that the more I dressed and acted like them, the more attention I got. Again, this is just my view on it after living there myself.
And striking a conversation with a stranger in Japan… well.. The keyword is to understand them. There are more than enough people to choose from in this world. So while its possible for a Western woman to have a string of one-night stands, or affairs with married men, getting a real relationship with a Japanese man is more difficult.
I am a male. I lived in Japan as a student for a year. I consider myself otakuish at the time and presently. I am not unattractive. Did I mention that I was black? Though not as easy as my Hitler calendar-boy colleagues man was he right or was he right? There real relationship unless you are hardcore intent on living and adapting to that culture.
I believe this goes for both genders sorry transexuals no matter what culture you are trying to flirt with. You are in Rome eventhough we are calling it Japan this time. I actually found it just as easy with girls various races for you wanna be eugenicists after I left Japan. Maybe some spark just needs ignition in all of us? Oh crap, my pony express riding great grandpa should have known! Western women smell like yeast? On a global scale, what is the heiarchy of preference of women by stereotypical nationality anyways?
How does it go for men? Any takers from other races? Enjoy the stuck up attitude and entitlement. Give me an Asian or Black woman anytime over a white woman. My experience in China was that blacks were fairly openly disliked there. They knew how to pickup chicks!
Thanks for the thought-provoking article. It seems that the issue does not just involve American women trying to date Japanese and possibly other Asian men, American women seem to have a very similar problem with British men. This is borne out by the following BBC news item:. I really hate to sound harsh, but it makes one wonder whether there may be some sort of growing global boycott against American women………. I remember when I was a kid, I used to think adults were all mature, reasonable, and respectful.
Think about what is actually being said. This was probably the worst: Do we need to be enemies? Do we need to be better than other people? Do we need to put people done for the way they are? So what if a guy is born with less natural social skills? Do we need to put people down? What if I told you I was a dorky white guy with a Samurai sword? Stop living a life filled with even a sliver of distaste in your mouth towards others.
Next time you see someone, anyone that you have a stereotype for, try to actual think of that person as more than 1-Dimensional: I apologize for this comment being overly sappy, but the anger and bitterness in this thread needs are serious counter-weight. Based off the talk here, it seems they must not be dorky not into anime etc. I just had to say I loved your article and its humour! Your article was funny in its honesty.
Before I leave the house, I have to second think what I am wearing incase it sends the wrong message and attracts unwanted attention from creeps and sleezeballs. All men were quite nice, not very shy, friendly, they liked me a lot… I met one very nice man from Tokyo and we talk via skype regularly.
First they were nervous and talked about weather and food and similar things, but later they opened and seemed to me very funny and enjoyable. Put some nice feminine photos. Me bring home just bit more than minimum wage.
Me then take pretty girl to move. Then we go to bedroom. And usually equally large asses. I understand your annoyance Reapwhatyousew is your name deliberately misphrased? Do you mean all men here are ill-educated? Or do less educated, skilled men get laid more often? Or that western women will sleep with anyone? There are male Neanderthals of course in Uk as well as in the US but it takes a female Neanderthal to go out with them.
He might be ill-educated, and poor too, but he might be kind and a good mate for someone, a good father for his children. Speaking as an individual western woman and for many of my friends, colleagues, acquaintances, I like intelligent, interesting, honest, kind, authentic caring, sexy, respectful, knowledgeable, preferably educated confident men.
I know of no other woman who has or wants any other kind. Confidence and intelligence is sexy to me. Prejudice or the despising of others is not. I lived in the Philippines for 20 plus years.
In fact I grew up there. Before I came to Canada, I was enamored with White girls. Now, I do not have much interest at them because they feel so entitled, are uppity, loud, arrogant, and act like men. I am talking about most White girls I have met, not all. The author of this post is a good example of a bitter, man-hating White woman.
Maybe if you relax a bit and have some humility, you will have Asian men come to you. Men in Asia do not like uptight women. Also, men in asia are used to women being women, not robots or he-women.
And sorry, we Asian men do not think that every expat that comes to Asia is akin to Jennifer Aniston. Jennifer Aniston is not even that pretty. The author has traveled the world, but is yet still ignorant to the amount of foreign beauties. You are not any better lady. Get a grip on reality. South American women are the hottest and most beautiful in my eyes btw.
I have a friend that has a very posetive and outgoing personality. She is very strong minded, smart and pretty. She had no problems with Japanese men. Now she is married to a japanese guy: I hear this all the time from the expat women in Asia.
But I have never had a problem with japanese men wanting to be with me in Japan. Secondly, I have a very open personality. But I do find that what alot of expat women consider taking care of their bodies, and looking good….
Its not wearing 10pounds of makeup and fake eyelashes that make u look good, its taking care of yourself and ur body…. To clarify, my name was misphrased because I was about 11 hours into a grave shift when I wrote it.
Guys like myself I admit who are not sports builds or models, but who have college degrees, a good paycheck, and a personality that is deeper than a childrens pool have to work much harder at getting either meaningless sex OR a relationship due to first impressions. They want a nice guy who is smart, blah blah blah, and they end up with someone who is emotionally abusive, cheats, or is exactly the barbarian dipshit that I described. It is funny though, because even after a difficult ice breaking encounter, their attitude changes a bit after they find out about my paycheck… but thats for another board discussing another issue.
I think our western culture emphasizes the high of chemical excitement of immediately obliterating romantic sex or just sex so much that both genders fall to the ones that obviously ooze that charisma, no matter what their personality or values.
The baddies in films are more than not, drooled over by women all over the planet. Good for fantasy, bad for real life. Women are particularly susceptible though the guys get hooked as well. Despite our contemporary view of sex and relationships both biologically and socially, I think that the force of sexual allurement is still underestimated, still wildly primitive and likely to remain so for both genders.
Not all will be blinded by this, and not just the unattractive and these are likely to be the golden ones. The women that I mentioned have not partnered barbarians in their life though certainly found a few on the way.
The ones more successful in their sexual and partnering hunt find a need to share values, to take some time, for respect. I do think you and I have to work much harder to obtain the relationships we desire. Googling around the web and found this intriguing post! I find it hard to believe that a blonde-haired woman such as yourself and from your photo quite attractive spends her nights alone!
Perhaps times have changed since this article was written! I too am foreign, female and reside in Japan though not in Tokyo. I do visit Tokyo often and find that I am simply not able to converse with any local guys.
Everyone tells me I look Japanese but believe me, I have never had anyone try to pick me up in Tokyo! I do try to talk to various people as I am inherently fascinated by many things here. But again, there are advantages to looking local at times. I tend to go around being ignored and I do admit that at times, I probably face less prejudice compared with some of my friends. You deserved to be alone. I noticed how you just stopped responding to the male posts here against your article.
Perhaps they are the ones who struck a nerve. The entire article was just amazing. All the time while you were spending those long lonesome nights with your vibrator…? I sincerely hope that you and all other white or any color women stay far far away from Japan. I am not against American women at all. Yeah, some of them are stuck up bitches. But a lot of them are freaking awesome! She thought she was entitled to whatever naturally without acting like the locals and blending in.
Your stuck-up attitude is very clearly deeply ingrained and will forever avert you from achieving your true potential. Wow, for some reason your story really touched me. I hope that one day you will be able to find a partner you can be happy with and thankyou for sharing your story and feeling with us! This might be the first feed back from a Japanese male. I am a Japan-born Japanese male, a descendant of Samurai family, per cents of Japanese.
But it was until just 7 years ago I came to the UK. I have been working here in London since then and have found myself became more westernised. Now I have got objective eyes to compare myself in UK context with myself in the past within the Japanese local environment…In fact, before I left from Japan, I was literally desperate for a foreign girl friend just like you!
After some failure to approach Japanese girls I started believing Japanese girls are too difficult for me to deal with due to their manner of unclear expression. At some point I started convincing myself that open-mind Western girls are more suitable for me. I also believed I am a person who should look for a gender equal partnership rather than traditional Japanese way Later on I realised my behaviour is highly influenced by Japanese mind set through some experience with European girl friends though….
In addition to those points I have a little bit advantages. I am quite taller than average Japanese boys with long legs and not-thin eyes. I thought OK, this is my destiny to find a Western girl. It is time to carry on my plan! I decided to try any possible ways to get a Western girl friend in Tokyo. I went to a popular club among foreigners, put my advertisements in free English magazines and took a place in language exchange parties.
Soon I got a chance to date with a very attractive girl from US, but at that time my English is totally useless to last a conversation more than 5 minutes… Therefore, language! This is one of very crucial issues obstructing us to develop sweet relation with foreigners. Many of Japanese guys who want to seek for romance with foreign ladies are usually not brave enough to confront this problem. There is another issue coming from nature of our society. We hardly have a frank communication with others on the street.
Even though you are a Japanese looking for a Japanese — Japanese combination of partnership, you barely pick somebody up from outside of your own community. On top of these issues as you may know we are too shy…The combination of those makes the worst result…But please do not forget there are many motivated Japanese guys like me.
After while living abroad I feel much more confident of English conversation. You just need to know where to find somebody like me. Not everywhere so you need to know some clue. Take ten random young Japanese women off the street and they will most likely be more attractive to men than ten random young Western women.
Therefore, if someone comes to an Asian country, and finds a girlfriend which is pretty likely, given the number of women in Asian countries , then that girl will most likely be hotter than the girls the guy could have chosen back in his home country. I live in China, and I know plenty of cool, jock dudes from the West who had no problems getting chicks back home, but they still go for the local girls and largely ignore the white girls.
Why do you think we go abroad? Laughably high self-expectations Jennifer Anniston? Give me a break. Also, why date a self centered, self-absorbed American women when you could have a sweet and caring Japanese girl? Please stop generalizing Japanese women and NA women. The author is talking about her experiences in Japan from her point of view. I have lived in Japan for 5 years and I can tell you that it IS in fact, easier for a white male to get a date then a white female.
The probable reason for this is that women in NA tend to expect to be approached. Whereas, in Japan the current trend is for the women including Japanese women to do the confessing.
Also, I find that culturally speaking, the dating process can be a lot more old-fashined and slow. For example, one time I was in the classroom grading some papers at my desk and I happen to be surrounded by 6 or 7 high school males looking in on what I was doing.
Your co-workers, fellow club members will often try to hook you up with someone else who is single. Nice to meet you. Also, this is going to sound crude, but it really helps if you have big brests and are a teensy bit curvy. If you ever watch Japanese porn or glance at porn mags in the convenience store, the girls tend to be a bit curvy not fat, but soft looking and have big boobs. I loved the blog post and have read most of the comments. Having lived in Tokyo for 7 years most of the dialogue here is all too familiar!
Rather than add anything to the age old debate on charisma man vs gaijin woman all I can do is tell it how it was for me.
I arrived in Japan in my 30s, and dated mostly Japanese men for the entire time I lived there. The two longer term relationships I had were with a European and J-guy. Great article, and the comments reflect the ongoing debate I got used to during my seven years in Tokyo.
I love Japanese men, it took about three months to feel that way, just as soon as good old Mother Nature got to work! Being in my 30s and divorced when I arrived may have made a difference to my experiences. Two Japanese and one European. Some people are way too shy to speak, and that language barrier is a major factor as others have said. Some guys want to tick something off their sexual bucket list, as do many foreign women too of course.
I met several Japanese men looking for a serious relationship, others who were confirmed singletons. I also dated mostly younger guys, which was an interesting turn about for me!
I could ramble on about this topic forever but now is not the time. Thanks again for posting your experiences. This is an awesome read which mirrors every day of my invisibility from the age of 16 until now as a man in my home country, the US.
I believe anyone intending to live in a foreign country long-term and also some shorter-terms should expect to truely learn about a different culture and respect them. Learn their language, do what they do, and everyone will be better for it.
By that they mean looking and acting more like Japanese women. The best relationship I had happened because we were already a great match, there was no need to force it. Have you single ladies ever asked yourself why Japanese women have different standards than American or Western women? The biggest problem is the social structure and the inherent chauvinism. Most of the foreign women I knew ended up dating other expats, from anywhere from Europe to Africa.
In my travels through Latin America, I have had to work hard to not be in the center of male attention wherever I go … not successfully, mind you, because foreign women stick out. Reannon — I read your interesting article. Our family friend is an expat single white female in China. It is almost impossible for her to get a date. Coming to a foreign country from their perspective they find it almost impossible to fit into your western culture, and quite frankly, no American white girl wants to date them, no matter how persistently they approach them.
Unfortunately, this kind of stuff just proves to me that love between an Asian man and a White female, whether in Japan, America, or any other place, is so rare that you might as well not even bother. By the way, Asian men absolutely adore White women. My other Asian friends gave up the interracial dating scene a very long time ago, when the th rejection got to be just too much to bear.
I have lived in Japan for two years and it IS easier for Caucasian men to get dates than for Caucasian women. You get no attention at all! You also look very unpolished compared to the dolled-up Japanese girls… yikes! I think its just you sweetheart you cant get a man back home and in Asia.
Look at these responses! Roth, welcome to the feeling of being unwanted and unattractive. Many guys in the U. Welcome to the club! The dating rules and culture are very different here. Plus the prize of Japanese boyfriend may not be what you were expecting.
There are masses of hot young Western men in Tokyo for me to choose from. If you use the internet. Are you a Charisma Man perhaps? I came to Japan for business I meet a beautiful Japanese lady the first day in Japan we fell in love and got married and now I live in Tokyo.
You say you are average or a cute lady for US. Your chances of getting a date are nearly zero among so many beautiful desirable Japanese ladies.
Its true I got a more beautiful wife here than I had in US, you call it a dating loop hole, reality is US is a dating cesspool, I always thought I was way to good for most American woman, I dress well, work out a lot have a great education and good job, most US woman dress like slobs or sluts are fat and lazy, if they have a college education its useless like french or something.
Woman around the world are much more desirable thinner and lady like than woman in the US. Trust me your large and in charge attitude and your belief that your better than everyone else just wont take American woman very far in Japan.
I am a western woman in Tokyo, been living here for years, and I have never really had trouble finding dates. Western women here just need to be willing to go out and be daring and not get discouraged if you come up nill after only a few tries. You wrote this with insulting comments towards American men, sprinkled with conceited comments towards Japanese men and women. And now you wonder why people respond in kind? You set the tone with your own judgmental attitude.
Allow me to underscore some of the issues here. You thought 9 months was a long time. You never even got past the first stage of living abroad before you gave up. Women in Japan make the first move. That means you have to swap roles with the American guy and take the initiative. Start with buying a gift, it need not be expensive.
Valentines is to your favor in Japan. All Japanese know foreigners, especially the women, are only there for a short time. Choose a target, and keep trying. Undoubtedly much faster than an American man trying to pick up girls… we have to try to many more times.
Get used to it if flings are your thing in Japan. Does hitting on random guys work for long-term relationships in America? Long-term relationships the world over are began through connections. Be it a common social group, work, or mutual friends. The latter is the rule in Japan. So much in Japan is done by word of mouth and mutual trust. The worst thing that can happen to anyone in Japan is to be ostracized. Generally speaking, you need to meet people in serious settings to find people interested in serious relationships.
This goes for any country. For the previous to work, you need to make friends with local females. They will be your best resource to local males. You have to leave the comfort zone of the gaijin bubble. Your coworkers should be your first target for friend-making. Give them presents and show them respect, chances are you will be accepted. The key to making friends with Japanese is showing honest consideration — not in words, in fact almost never in words.
It must be done in small acts of kindness, with a smile. This is actually much easier for women in general. For a guy to gain acceptance is a little harder. So use this liberally, make local friends. Your condescension towards Japanese men and women is very obvious. Carrying on with the perception issues, another is that Western Women are high maintenance.
You need to beat that perception. Ultimately my theory on why JPN female — Ame male works and is so prevalent is very simple: To take all the responsibility and hand over all the spoils. On the flipside, the 2 cultures teach that Japanese men expect to be indulged and American women expect to be spoiled. American women may not realize this, but Japanese men are aware of it. This goes back to 7. One of you has to give. In Japan, you have to play by their rules. That would get you ignored in America too, maybe even perceived as creepy or inappropriately forward and unwanted attention.
You can call the situation in Japan sexist, but then you would be admitting the situation in America is reverse sexism by extension.
For a guy to seriously date Japanese women, we have to also get accustomed to different expectations. The difference is that, the expectations in our home country largely exceed those in Japan.
That might mean you prove the perception wrong. You will want to take steps to mitigate those perceptions in the early stages, however. You may also express to your local friends your concerns. Japanese, regardless of sex, are likely to treat Americans, regardless of sex, as play toys. Thus you guys appear to get very jealous.
American men also have a lot of negative perceptions to work through and a longer and more difficult road in establishing local friends. The reality is that not a whole lot of Japanese want to move abroad permanently. This thread has a lot of complaints from women abroad that they either get no attention in country X or too much attention in country Y.
It seems like no matter what, you take issue with how men treat you outside of America. With this kind of attitude and stereotyping, how do you expect anyone from the opposite sex to take you seriously? To make a cross-cultural relationship work, it takes a lot of work and flexibility by both parties. The rewards are high, but it requires commitment and trust. So long as these kinds of stereotypes are your perceptions of men abroad, you will never be able to establish the trust for such a relationship.
I do see a change in culture amongst the younger women in the Uk, some of which I find distasteful, but any young women that I know seem not to behave that way at all.
They are not overbearing, are feminine, intelligent, are fit sometimes not so fit! I can understand that there is a perception though which clearly needs to be taken into account and that is really helpful. I am almost old enough to remember that culture. Reading only what is on the surface is a terrible mistake. Reading any culture, any race, any person on the surface is a terrible mistake.
The comments here are largely criticizing the author of this ridiculous article. She spent 2 blog entries and a total of pages whining about how nobody wanted to put up with her nonsense overseas. Mind blowing stuff, I know. Do I not have a right to have an opinion or speak? Is there a rule here that forbids this? Anyone who says something else must shut up. You enjoy dancing around the issue and pointing out the imagined flaws you see in me and others who have posted here but you fail to make any new or interesting points about the substance of this article.
Essentially the argument comes down to this: Reannon provided us her take on the subject: Many men came on and expressed why they felt this was happening. Rather than listening to the men who have come out and TOLD her in black and white why she had problems getting a date, she instead wrote another blog entry incredulous at being told the truth.
Listen, if you want sugar coated replies and people to agree with everything you say, find a cuckolded North American husband who will tell you everything you want to hear. If you want the truth, raw and unfiltered, ask the internet. Eiry You are entitled to your opinion but you are wrong. Western women particularly American white woman, are corrupted and spoiled to a point beyond any value for a man.
Not all men are aware of it yet, just as you are not aware of it, but for many men who have traveled to other countries and dated other woman particularly Japan and other Asian countries, the contrast between American white woman and Asian woman is startling. American white woman are completely ruined to men by an amalgam of philosophies, including, Feminism, Princess-ism and Christianity. Although this is to short to explain in detail what I mean, American woman choose the worst of these three concepts to justify any behavior and demands, with no limit to how horrible they look, act and behave.
They are poisoned beyond any value to men and any man with any sense would avoid Western women particularly White American women at all costs like they are a plague. Andys How bitter and twisted can you sound, Andys?
By definition, an opinion is neither wrong nor right. You have failed to provide any meaningful reasons and examples to back yours up, though. The angrier you become, the more difficult it is to use language and logic.
Now that is a scientific fact. Like one of the ladies said earlier, some of that may have been the novelty factor and bragging rights rearing its comic head. Western men seem very interested in me, but Tokyo is a big city and big cities have an aloofness to them that all expats can struggle with. Japanese culture teaches people to not interact with strangers and most expats pick this up unwittingly.
I have taken to using my unique status and my curiousity to start conversations with new people on a daily basis. Mainly to practise my Japanese but it also seems to help ward off the loneliness — its tough being human and away from your tribe. The wonderful sideaffect is that I keep getting asked out by some widely inappropriate men — in my opinion.
Now you can get all hot and bothered about the idea that people of similiar attractiveness being together, or you can just see it for what it is. It a well-noted phenomenon across every culture and continent. The problem for some people is that attractiveness is measured both personally and culturally.
Who knows if the attraction for them is purely personal or more culturally influenced. All I know is that I go through buckets of sunblock and get hit on — by them — a lot. I remind myself that its not personal. Until they know me, its all very superficial and nothing over which to get an inflated ego. The writer of this blog, Reannon Muth, was not the first person to note the beauty and the geek couplings here between not-so-attractive Western guys and gorgeous Japanese women.
It may offend some of the people who have benefitted from this change in attractiveness by crossing a border or two to have this pointed out. Its not personal but its hard not get a boost from it. Western cultures and Japanese culture are different.
Sounds too simple to say out loud? Different does not mean better. You can try to spot the differences all day, every day or you can just get on with being here and enjoying what you can. Make it personal when you need it to be. Seems like a LOT of men on here have some unresolved mommy issues.
Please do not push your unresolved issues with your mothers on the rest of us. The definition of a desirable man is different in Asia than in the USA. Even in most 3rd world countries an uneducated, criminal gangsta man with felony arrest records is not considered desirable but in USA he is a prize. I have a few more thoughts to add. This subject does indeed hit close to home for me; and I assume a fair number of other guys. And of course this is backed by the presupposed fact that the Asian woman is subservient and demure.
I can assure you, my fairer half is in no way subservient. In fact, she has a career job that most women in the US would probably kill for. They just assumed she was a mindless Asian woman who existed for no reason but to please me. This article seems to play into that train of thought — that Asian women are just trophies.
Material objects that nerds can attain only in Asia. The second half is a theory. I suspect Japan is a society streamlined for introverts. As does the prefabricated small talk, greetings, etc. An introvert just has to learn the rules and follow them. Learning through casual observation is easy for an introvert.
Furthermore, being a good listener is far more valued than being a smooth talker. I imagine extroverts feel very limited in this environment. Like a fish out of water. I know I do. How I feel in America, is probably similar to how the author felt in Japan. Including financial success and confidence — 2 of the most important factors for American women.
But I will say Ive been in Tokyo along time, I never see Japanese men with American white woman or any men here for that matter. But whatever you say you are right because you are white and your a princess and you are better than everyone else I acknowledge that so just go away leave me alone!!
Thanks for a great article. Cindy ok thank you for telling us how great you are and how everyone else is wrong! In keeping with your training you are taking a great combat stance good job, we are proud of you little soldier!!! You are woman I can hear you roar!!! You are without a doubt a woman any man would go to another country to avoid! How culture, laws and justice system are custom designed to support the white woman, and encourage her to use, abuse and destroy men through dirty, vicious, combat tactics while on her quest to find a prince that does not exist, the whole time playing, sweet, helpless and innocent and blaming everything on the, mean, evil, selfish, stupid man.
The purpose of this is for all men of the world to read and understand the training and support of the cultural, legal and justice system for white women and why western civilization during its collapse is uninhabitable for any man with any sense.
There are still many parts of the world where men and women live together in love and happiness for a lifetime, but its impossible in the USA for any extended period of time with an American white woman so just give up on that idea.
After reading the men will understand why its impossible in the USA but very possible with women from many other countries.
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